What is position 69?
The 69 position involves two partners simultaneously performing oral sex on each other. It’s named after the visual similarity to the number “69” when two bodies align in opposite directions.
As queer sex educator Marla Renee Stewart, MA, explains, “The most common position for 69-ing is for one partner to lie on their back, while the other lies on top, facing the opposite direction.”
Benefits of the 69 Position
Simultaneous Pleasure
Clinical sexologist Megwyn White highlights the beauty of 69: “It allows both partners to enjoy the intimacy and physicality of oral sex at the same time.”
Tips for Enhancing the 69 Experience
Switch Roles
If one partner is always on top, try swapping positions. Exploring from a new angle may uncover new erogenous zones.
Protect Your Neck
While neck injuries are unlikely, improper positioning can lead to discomfort. If you’re on the bottom, support your neck with a rolled-up shirt, pillow, or similar aid.
Comfort is Key
Discomfort can diminish pleasure. Adjust your positions until both partners feel relaxed and open to sensation.
Experiment with Techniques
Erotic educator Taylor Sparks encourages variety: “The mouth and tongue can do things genitals can’t—lick, suck, blow, flick, and bite. Explore what your partner enjoys most.”
Communicate and Stay Consistent
Ask your partner what they like, such as:
- “Do you prefer flicking or sucking?”
- “Does this feel good?”
Once you find what works, stick with it. Stewart emphasizes that consistency is the cornerstone of climax.
Maximize the Experience
Use Your Hands
Combine oral techniques with hand movements. Hands can rub, squeeze, stroke, or penetrate, enhancing sensations while reducing strain on your mouth.
Adjust for Height Differences
For significant height disparities, try the sideways 69. Both partners lie on their sides, or the taller partner forms a C-shape to align better.
Incorporate Tools
Use items like cushions for support, sex chairs to reduce strain, or vibrating toys to add stimulation.
Explore Variations and Preferences
Include Toys
Finger vibrators, C-rings, and butt plugs can enhance sensations. Tools like the Hot Octopuss DiGit or Satisfyer Royal One bring new dimensions to the experience.
Try Analingus
The top position provides easier access for anal play, which can stimulate over 4,000 sensitive nerves.
Alternative Positions
If mutual oral doesn’t feel satisfying, explore other positions like standing/kneeling oral or face-sitting. Add penetrative acts or mutual masturbation if desired.
Final Thoughts
Whether you call it 69-ing, mutual oral, or 34+35, this position offers unique intimacy and pleasure. Follow these tips to ensure a memorable and satisfying experience.
